As a child we had the chant words will never hurt me, but that was really a lie we told ourselves.
Words Hurt, Wound, Scar, And Can Even Paralyze Someone With Fear.
I know because I remember all the names people have called me in my life. I remember them now without any pain, but they made a gaping wound that has now healed through the help of a therapist. The wound these people caused me in my Elementary, Junior High, and High School Years left a scar that reminds me everyday to be careful with my words. Those names my fellow students called me were part of a bigger picture that contained more verbal abuse that led to physical and sexual abuse. You may be reading this remembering a name you called me since some of my readers were classmates of mine. When you are making fun of someone, start a rumor, or just out and out call them a name you cannot know the extent of damage you are doing. Well, I know some of my classmates knew very well they had hurt me and I could see them relish that in their eyes.
I tell my daughter to always be kind to everyone because she does not know what happens to them when they go home. There may be a reason they try to hurt or belittle you. It is not right for them to do that so leave the situation, walk away…
I walked away a lot. Sometimes though, I was forced to stand and fight.
When my book “Scar Wars-Forged in Fright ” debuts those classmates that hurt me so offhandedly will read the horror I really lived. I have given their viciousness a lot of thought and I wonder what made them that way. Because you see, I did not know what happened to them when they went home either.
I believe bullies are full of pain and they are so miserable that they take all their anger and find someone weaker than them to abuse since they had been abused. It could have been any kind of abuse. Some bullies are angry that no one will pay attention to them so they make themselves puffed up and make a scene so people will think they are big and tough and it is a warning not to mess with them. They are just as hurt and damaged as their victim.
Others can be physically violent.
If you still have yearbooks take them out and look at your classmates. Look at how young they were to be abused in such adult ways.
There have always been bullies and there always will be bullies for one simple reason…
What I know know is that abuse begets abuse.